I'm not sure if Vinnie is still speaking to me, but hopefully some of what all of us said will sink in to him. I really, really pray it does. Not only for him, but for his children as well.
I received an email last night from Vinnie's love interest. She was probably far more gracious than I'd have been if I'd read the things that were said about her on my blog! I'd have been a real bitch to me! haha
I will not detail what her email said other than to say I don't necessarily feel she and her husband are running a con on Vinnie. I'm not going to say for sure that they aren't, because frankly I have no way to confirm it one way or the other. But I do think it's probably just a really messed up emotional situation, and not a criminal one. However, I can tell you in all honesty that I didn't get any warm fuzzies from her either. No declarations of love, no explanation of her positive intentions towards him, no real indications of anything other than she was upset that he told details of her private life to a bunch of strangers. Basically all she really said about him is that he's a wonderful man and she's the last person who wants to see him get hurt. So, as far as I'm concerned, the jury is still out on her.
As you can imagine, I didn't hold back in my response to her, and told her in no uncertain terms that she and I have very different definitions of "cheating", and what acting in the best interests of our children is, and that she needs to clean up the mess she's in before somebody really gets hurt.
And the last thing I said to her is this:
I have made the decision to stay out of any conversations going forward about you, with Vinnie. He isn't going to listen anyway. 78 people commented today that he needs to walk away from this situation and the ONLY comment he grabbed on to was the one person who's affair ended in marriage. So he's a big boy, and he's on his own with this one. I wish you both luck, and hope that you find your way out of your marriage if that's really what you want, and I hope that he gets the love that he deserves. I just frankly don't believe it will be with you.
With that being said, after this post I will not be discussing Vinnie's love life any further. We gave him the advice he asked for. What he chooses to do with it from this point on is his business, and if he wants us to know, he'll write a post on his own blog about it. In fact, I hope he does, and I hope it's a happy ending to this story, because I will (for once!) be thrilled to say "I was wrong".
Now, let's go back to talking about my favorite subject....me. LOL
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I hope he'll come back and join us on your blog. I also hope that he really thinks about the comments that were posted. No one is trying to be mean...but rather trying to help. But sometimes, people don't want help. You tried Julie!
Who's the next guest blogger? HA!
julie...what is that handsome son of yours up to in this new year?
Any interesting 'dates' on your horizon? Who will win the Super Bowl? What's for dinner tonight? If Vinnie stops commenting, will you reset your comment thingy to zero? Enquiring blogging minds want to know!
Make it a good day!
P.S. Prayers to Vinnie!
~AirmanMom returning to her blog...
Oaf! All those comments and that's all he got? Bless his tender, confused heart. I hope he gets it all sorted out to with as little pain and damage as possible.
We love you Vin.
Now on to Jules. Are you in need of anymore Sweet Tea yet? I found more stores here that are carrying it.
Hey, I'm hungry. Will you come make me some breakfast? I'm too lazy to get out of bed...
Well said...and I almost spit up my Pepsi when you said, "Let's go back to talking about my favorite subject: ME" HAHAH! I LOVE THIS.
Thanks for the update Julie...i was wondering about vinnie, before i went to bed i came and read all of the comments
@georgie...I don't know anything more today. He hasn't responded to my email and it appears he's taking a blogging sabbatical. Hopefully he'll be back with us at some point.
Julie,
You did your duty as a friend. The overwhelming majority of us agreed that this is all a bad idea.
He seems like such a nice guy, I hope things work out however he chooses to proceeed.
When I asked for honesty I didn’t expect such outright meanness. To say I’m disappointed would be a huge understatement. The unfortunate thing is I brought it on myself, which would have been fine if I had hadn’t also hurt the person that I’m desperately in love with along with me. I don’t pray but I have been for the last 24 hours that she’ll forgive me and we can still salvage what started out as delicate situation.
I’m flabbergasted by how judgmental so many people were. I knew people were going to agree with Julie but it was worse than being thrown to the lions. And again, I have no one to blame but myself.
I am sincerely glad that so many people cared enough to comment, I really am, I just wish it had gone down differently.
As for the “woman” every single one of you who called her a user, skank and whatever else is wrong. She has a huge heart and would never do that. Why would she never do that? Because she’s been used in the past and knows what it feels like. She’s incredibly strong considering some of the things she’s been through.
I know how she feels and that’s the only thing that counts.
The situation is way beyond normal and just because you can’t understand it is no reason to attack a person like that.
Thank you to the couple of you who did understand, I really appreciate that and that was the support I was looking for.
Hun I apologize again for all this and I truly hope we can get past it. I do love you more than I could ever put down on paper and none of these people will change my mind…
@ Vinnie...
I'm sorry you didn't get what you wanted out of your post. I don't believe anybody was trying to be mean or judgemental, but we all reacted on *what you told us*.
I am very aware that there are two sides to every story, and this one is no exception. We only heard your side. If your friend wants to post her side, I'm more than happy to do that for her. Then we can all get a clearer picture than the one we had yesterday.
I'm sorry that you are disappointed. I'm not sure what you expected, if you thought people would read about the situation and and all hearts & flowers over it or what, but I knew for sure that everyone would react with the same candor that I did. And that's because people care for you and do not want to see you get hurt.
But your last sentence says it all..(and for anyone who is confused, he's directing this at his love interest) "Hun I apologize again for all this and I truly hope we can get past it. I do love you more than I could ever put down on paper and none of these people will change my mind…"
You didn't post that blog looking for advice, and you had no intention of taking it when you got it, did you? Unless, of course, every single one of us had said "Hell yes, stay in this amazing, loving relationship!!!!"
I guess we're all clear now.
I hope that things work out for Vinnie, whether it means being with her or not being with her. From what little I know of him he seems like a very kind hearted soul and he deserves happiness. I hope he isn't upset with you and I hope he understands that its his best intrest you had in mind when you said what you did.
I do however have to agree with Vinnie that some of the comments were over the line mean, but I went through the same thing in my life so I am very familiar with how strong peoples opinions are on certain subjects. Sometimes people don't realize the difference between voicing an opinion and attacking a person that is asking for help. They don't think they are attacking, but if they could see it through your eyes they would see the cruelity of their words.
If it makes you feel any better, when I went through my deal, people went as far as to say my NEWBORN DAUGHTER was a whore just like her mother. Come on... attacking a newborn? At least no one went THAT low on ya ;-D
ANWAY, JULIE!! How are ya babe?! What's new in your life sweetie pie? Got any good jokes? Read any good books lately. :-D
I was just looking for friendly, civil opinions. My fault for not making it clear. I didn't expect anyone would agree.
I wasn't looking for advice so much as just differnt takes on the situation which I got in spades.
I guess what I really wanted was some support wether you agreed or not...
I'm just so very upset at how I caused her to hurt when I didn't mean to at all...
Vinnie, I emailed you about this. I'm not going to get into a pissing contest with you on my blog. I can be plenty blunt in private.
I didn't comment further yesterday regarding Vinnie's situation because I really don't think he wants advice. If he did, he would have listen to you.
Love is a bitch. Once you start to fall, all those warning signs are overlooked. Hell, I rationalized a whole road block in my last relationship because I couldn't let go.
I hope he will see the light. I think this woman is taking advantage of him, knowing he has fallen hard. She doesn't love him and if he digs deep, he may find he doesn't love her either. She needs him and I believe that is what he loves. To be needed even if it's negative.
P.S. So happy your blog will reurn to be about you. You're definitely my favorite subject in this blog;)
Yow, guess I've got some catching up to do!
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