Friday, August 28, 2009

Is there a "y'all" at the end of hostile?

So the other day I did a blog post about Paula Deen being President. One of my long time readers from Georgia (you know who you are, but to protect you in this instance I won't mention names) sent it to me via email because she knows my love of ATP (All Things Paula).

Like many emails I get, I blogged about it. There was no link or reference in the email that stated it had previously been posted on another blog, or I'd have given credit where credit is due. Nor did it seem to make sense to preface the post with "Hey, my friend Susie got this from her friend Sally who forwarded it from Debbie who forwarded it from Kathy who got it from Kelly....blah blah blah". It was an email, for heaven's sake. We all get many joke emails a day. Do you know the origination of every one that you get?

Then I received a comment on the post from a person who owns a blog saying I was stealing from her and violating her copyright, etc.

I wrote to this person and apologized and said that I had received it in an email, thought it was funny and blogged about it. (For the record, while it was amusing, it needed tweaking, so I added my own comments to the end of it as well.) I offered to link back to their site, or remove it entirely.

Frankly, I was thinking to myself, you might wanna take me up on the link back offer. Nobody should turn down free advertising!

The response I received was rather surprising. It started out with "Greetings" then quickly turned to calling me a liar about how I received the information (that it did not come via email but rather I went to the site and stole it), continued with accusing me of taking credit for work that wasn't mine (which I never did) and ended with veiled threats of being sued for claiming something as my own that isn't.

Wow. Hostile!

I really didn't mean to piss anybody off with it. I just thought it was a mildly cute thing to post. Funny thing is, if someone posted one of my blogs on their site, I'd have been flattered that they thought it was entertaining enough to use, and would have simply written them an email saying "Hey, that's my original post, please make sure you say that on your blog or link back to me."

(Except for that time when the Bike Smut guys posted part of my discussion with the exercise bike. To their credit, they did link back to me, but unfortunately I really didn't want my blog being associated with bicycle porn! I send them a nice email asking them to remove it and they did.)

Getting all whipped up about an honest mistake really isn't necessary. Especially when this could have been turned into an advantage for the other blogger. I have lots of followers and tons of daily readers who probably would have gotten a kick out of his/her blog, if I'd linked to it instead of deleting the post altogether.

Funny thing is, in looking at his/her site, they put a link at the end of every post that says "E-Mail To A Friend". So I'm thinking to myself...if you don't want people emailing your blog posts to others, thus opening yourself up for it being copied elsewhere....you might want to remove that link!

And I have to wonder....does the owner of that site have written permission from Paula Deen to use an image of her and draw a mustache on it, as her blog header?? Or from Racheal Ray who has horns drawn on her head? I see numerous pictures in their blog posts that have clearly been taken from other sources. C'mon, who thinks this blogger is Paula Deen's personal photographer? So wouldn't using someone else's photographs on your blog (especially stock photos such as the ones in the header which can be found all over the web) be stealing as well? Isn't that just what he/she accused me of doing?

And then I saw it.

The link asking for Paypal donations to help with the web hosting fees on this site. LOL...that's the funniest thing I've ever seen!!!! Hell, who knew it was appropriate to solicit your readers for money to keep your blog online? I average 7,000 blog hits a month. If you'd all send me a dollar every time you visit my blog, I can quit my job and do this for a living!!!! My blog would be SO MUCH MORE FUN if you guys would just support me financially while I write it.

I'm still laughing at that. It takes some pretty big cajones to ask your readers to "donate" to your blog. Wow. Seriously, who does that? And would you even read a blog that did??

So anyway....I have removed the infamous Paula Deen post from my blog.

If you want to read more, the link to that site is....oh wait, I don't want to get sued for posting the blog address without permission. LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL


26 comments:

Lilly said...

Totally agree with everything you say in this post. What a nasty shock though. There is nothing stranger than folk. Deleting the post was the best thing to do - besides none of us need to go check out this blog.

As for Paypal donations, I am glad you raised this. I have an aversion to any blogger collecting money for any reason. Of late, I have been seeing it more and more. People collecting for other bloggers because they are going through hard times or whatever also annoys me. I did it once then noticed the blogger took a big holiday afterwards. I never, ever will donate any money to any person I do not know. Ever. Again. If that makes me mean well so be it.

I just think its wrong. If people want to earn money put advertising on their blogs.

Maybe you should think of advertising through BlogHer with those hits each month you would earn a little without having to do anything different to what you already are. And never have to consider a paypal button, lol!

Sorry its been so long since I visited last, I have been busy and not blogging as much.

me said...

Sorry you were put through that! YOu know that saying that only afool argues with a fool..... apparently you cant reason with them either!!! I ve alwasy said stupid people dont even know when theyve lost the arguement...... well you cant win em all!! keep it up!

STILLMAGNOLIA said...

¡QuĂ© cajones! indeed! I loved the post, I hate you deleted it...but that was probably best....as for donations to a blog....come on! You don't beg for money...you advertise...keep the wonderful and witty blurbs of wisdom coming. I love your way of thinking.

The Peach Tart said...

I'm sorry this happened to you and that it was started as an email from Georgia because all people in Georgia are not crazy. Take me for instance. Not crazy and do love me some Paula.

It appears there are crazies everywhere even in the blogosphere.

Unknown said...

I'm still laughing about asking for donations. Ha! We could all retire from our day job, huh?

Unknown said...

julie...good call deleting the post! Afterall, this is the blogosphere, can't we all get along?
After reading the comment, I did link to the site and was as astonished as you, by the marked up photos and PayPal. Farewell to that site!
The other night for giggles, I 'googled' AirmanMom...I was very surprised to find a hater...I mean some unknown blogger devoted a post to how much they dislike my taste in music, comments about my readers, etc. This post was written over a year ago. The blog is not current, but I did leave a comment...because I could.
Oh my! If you don't like my blog, go visit one of 2 million other blogs...don't hate on me!
Isn't there enough discord in the 'real' world? The blogosphere should be a Utopia...speaking of which, where's Fred?
Make it a good Friday!
~AM

Bagman and Butler said...

The Internet is the aggregate brain of the human race, you can't put something on it and expect it won't be used. Sounds like a case of superinflated ego who expects his mustache on paula dean will be in the Museum of Modern Art some day.

Anonymous said...

Donations? Really? So sad.

What is this world coming to?

Boo hiss....sorry you had to delete the post.

f8hasit said...

Does she want you to donate to her site then to pay for the lawyer she'd hire to sue you for posting something that she feels she has the copyright to?

You should send her a buck. She's going to need it if you let the Paula Dern people know she's using her image and defacing it.

:-)

Julie D said...

@ Lilly....I don't care about advertising and making money. I didn't start a blog for that reason. And I agree, I have problems with any blogger asking me to pay them to blog. There are a zillion blogs out there I can read for free.

@AirmanMom....what? Who could not love you and your blog, for what you do for our servicemen and women??? What an idiot. Send me the link, I'll tell him so! LOL

@f8hasit....exactly. I sure hope somebody tips off Paula Deen's publisher that her pictures are being used, and more importantly, defaced...on a blog that solicits money from it's readers. Karma, baby.

Tiffany said...

What a fucking bitch. She/he's just pissed that you probably have more readers than they do.

And we ALL get tons of emails that had to come from somewhere.

What a loser. They suck worse than the bike porn people. LOL

Stephanie said...

It's a shame you had to censor yourself by deleting YOUR writing b/c of one person but I agree you did the right thing. Not worth the drama!

Julie D said...

@ModernMom....to be clear, I didn't write the entire PD post. I received it in a funny email, and then I added to it to make it funnier for my blog. But it's not worth the all the drama, so I just deleted the whole thing.

bj said...

Good grief..I do agree with everything you said here. Blogland is just like anywhere else, I guess..mean people are all around us.
Sorry you had to go thru this..I have posted emails on my blog and then see someone else posted it, too. Never anything comes of it, tho. You just happened to get a mean-spirited person.
As for people asking for money...they better not ask ME...I'll ask right back!! :)

chocolatecovereddaydreams.blogspot.com said...

Too sad! That's ridiculous to not only make accusations but then expect people to pay for webhosting! Funny!!!!

Sorry you had to remove the post but at least we got a chance to read it.

Tuesday Taylor said...

2 words that rhyme with frazy witch come to mind!

I hope you told her to beat it and don't let your blogging door hit her in the ass!

Stephanie said...

Ahh. Gotcha. Still behind you! Still think she over reacted and you handled all with class:)

sheila said...

Geeeeeeeeeeez.

I think I'd send the celebs on her site her blog link with their 'image or likeness' pointed out in it.

Someone needs to put her big girl panties on and get the fuck over herself.

Rebecka said...

Thanks for stopping by my little page... of course I followed you home... and I've been laughing my butt off since I got here.

At least when people do stupid-ass things it gives us something to blog about.

Anonymous said...

WELL YOU DIDN'T TELL ME ABOUT THIS!

(1) there is no way anything on the internet can be copywrited unless it says so on the photo.

(2) a photo of any celebrity cannot be copywrited by a blogger that is posting it.

Anything sent via email is in the possession of the internet...try tracking down the person who started the "forward" craze. I'd like to sue him/her also

(3) Never fight with a pig. You'll get dirty and the pig will enjoy it.

(4) Joe's ex-son-in-law has a paypal donation on his blog which only contains postings about his kids and his problems.

(5) Before hitting the "PAY" button, I made Joe wash the SAP sign off his forehead.

Trina said...

Some people!

Ya know, I'd pay you to visit your blog. But you wouldn't have gotten much from me lately since I haven't visited. Don't think I'm just avoiding you...I haven't visited much of anyone!

Sandra said...

YOU ARE HILARIOUS!!! Just read your rebuttal at Sandi's regarding being "needy" and had to come and say hi!!! AGain...

Loved this post!!!

I wonder if any of my stuff has ever been stolen... how would I find that out?

Anonymous said...

That person is a complete moron, well really think of them I cannot type. Who seriously thinks its okay to berate someone for something ridiculousy stupid. I mean c'mon get a flipping life...moron! AND to actually get paid...ru freaking kidding me??PLEASE send me this hookerspits blog addy, PRETTY PLEASE or I will cuff your ass to your desk...I sooooooo want to visit this fool

Fragrant Liar said...

All I can say is, that person is misguided. (Bad call, you!) A missed free advertising opportunity wherein said Misguided blogger could gain potential donations, and he/she's bitching? Think somebody got up on the wrong side of the bed.

You are right on with this, Julie.

Paige said...

Dont you think people get crazier every day? This is just more evidence of it

GingerJar said...

Sounds like a blogger w/too much time on their hands...and stressed out. Probably got laid off for playing on the computer at work and forwarding emails.