Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Still hanging in there



This has been a tough week. Mom has been in the hospital a week today, and my sisters and I are there all day every day with her. We go in shifts but it's hard on all of us, trying to balance work and hospital time but we are doing it.

Mom had the kidney tube removed yesterday and a stent put it, and afterwards she told my sister "I'm done, no more". She just wants to go home (to the nursing home) to see her friends. I think she just wants to say goodbye, and that's okay.

She still has a little bit of an appetite so I think that means she's not quite ready to leave us yet. I'm told that's the first thing to go, when her body stops wanting or needing food. So I think we still have a couple of weeks with her. But who knows, these things are unpredictable aren't they?

Thank you all for your love, thoughts and prayers. My family appreciates it, and personally it means the world to me. I've made so many friends with this blog, and each of you has touched my life in a very special way, and for that I'll always be grateful.

I'll keep you posted as the roller coaster ride continues....


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21 comments:

Liz said...

((hugs)) I'm glad she's hanging in there and hope she gets to go home soon. It really sucks, but I'm glad she has such wonderful daughters and family to take care of her and love her.

Kym said...

I'm delurking to let you know I'm so sorry to hear about your mama. I know how hard it is to lose a parent! She is lucky to have you and your sisters. Love your blog and relate to so much you have to say!

NV said...

Thoughts and prayers are with you. I can only imagine how hard this is. I'm glad you have siblings to laugh, share and cry with. Keep holding each other up.

Coffeypot said...

I think it is both sweet and courageous for her to want to go back home to see her friends. She knows and just wants to go with dignity. Love her spirit! Tell her that there’s an old pervert in GA sending prayers for her…and a hug or two.

Joanie M said...

thinking of you and your mom and saying a few prayers.

Nicole said...

Wow! What a beautiful picture (of a picture). It takes my breath away...

Tara said...

Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking about you and your family Julie. Since I'm local, if you need anything, please do not hesitate to get in touch. Emails to taranwake (@) gmail (dot) com will come straight to my phone. Hang in there :)

Keeping Up With Kaegan said...

I, as well as another commenter, had my breath taken away when looking at that picture. Beautiful. Still thinking about and praying for you and your family.

Ace said...

Bittersweet moments to be sure. Embrace every minute of it because things will be said and shared that you will treasure forever. I hope your mom makes it back to the nursing home to see her friends. She deserves that.

Continuing to think of you all and keep you in prayer.

Allison said...

I never have the right words in this sort of situation, so I just wanted to tell you that you, your mom, and your whole family have been in my thoughts and prayers.

Donna B said...

If you feel she is getting close and won't return to the nursing home, make sure you all say your good byes and tell her it is OK if she wants to go. Hospice gave us that advice when my Mother in Law was in her last stages. We were so grateful, because she let go right after my husband told her. It was like she was just waiting for him to give her permission. She had not been eating or drinking for a few weeks...

I am sending you big hugs. I can imagine what a huge loss this is. Our prayers are with you and your family.

Vegas Linda Lou said...

I love you, Julie.

Linda S said...

so sorry, i know how hard it is. prayers to you and your mama!

Jake said...

Been there with my Dad and understand how you feel. I agree with the others that you need to tell her it's OK if she wants to go.
Thinking of you.

The Retired One said...

It really is a roller coaster ride.....the Heavens are not ready for her yet, the angels are taking time to make sure her room is perfect before she joins them and they want you to have a bit more time to love on her first...hang in there...you are all in my thoughts.

Danica said...

Love you lots. Hang in there.

Fragrant Liar said...

Yes, when she is ready, she'll know it. And it may be quick, as you say. And if not, enjoy your last precious days with her.

HUGS,
Kimber

LV said...

We have no control over when our number will come up. She is being left for a purpose. As long as she is not in a lot pain or suffering, let her do whatever she is able to do. The love and support from her family, is a blessing to her. Hang in there.

Tana said...

It is 11:08 pm here in Texas and you are heavy on my mind. Give your Mom a kiss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

Your picture is a beautiful one of the both of you. I'm praying that your mom does feel the peace in knowing that when it's time to let go, she will. I hope though, that if it's not time, that she will enjoy more time with her family and friends.

gayle said...

The hardest thing was to tell my dad it was ok.....not sure if he could hear me..but I did.
It is so hard and I do understand! Try to take a little time to think of any questions you may want to ask and let her know (once again ) how much you love her.