Wednesday, October 21, 2015

So it's almost Halloween again!

See, when you get married on Halloween, you get to have an "anniverscary" (see what I did there?) every year.

And this year, we have friends throwing us a party!

 OK maybe that's not exactly the truth...they do have a Halloween party every year...but this year they are billing it a Halloween/Anniverscary party so in a way, it counts!!!

We are going as a zombie bride and groom. Go figure. The good news is that I finally get to "trash the dress".  And by dress, I mean the one I wore at my first wedding.  You know, the event forever known as The Biggest Mistake Of My Life.  (Thank God I learn from my mistakes!!!)

I've held on to the dress for 12 years, always wanting to do something with it but not sure what.  At one point I looked into sending it to one of those amazing women who make baby gowns for infants who have passed away in hospitals, but they were overwhelmed with them at the time and so I continued holding on to it.

It hangs outside in my back yard garage in a white bag, in the corner....looking like a ghost.

Appropriate, I think.  That marriage has been long dead and buried.

So yeah, the dress.  It's getting sliced up and bloodied and dirtied and stained and zombied and I can't wait!  It's going to be so fun to do!  I'll post pictures after the party.

It will be bootiful.


Monday, January 5, 2015

Happy 2015!

Happy New Year, friends!

I can't believe yet another year has flown by.  Where does the time go?  It seems like it took forever to plan our wedding (15 months from the time we got engaged until the big day) and now we've been married two months already.  Crazy!

In case you didn't notice, I updated my blog layout.  After 6+ years at I thought it was time to give the old girl a face lift.  After all, we're in our 50's now!  I originally had a puzzle theme all these years, as when I started my blog I was getting over a divorce and felt like I was missing a piece to the puzzle of my know, a sane, normal, functional piece...not that batshit crazy ass cheater I originally tried to fit into the picture.    
:::: snarky grin:::::

But then 4 years ago my missing piece returned.  And two months ago I married him.  <3

So now my blog reflects a new era in my life.  The wine drinking era, it seems.  LOL  The picture of me on the wine bottle is from the wedding.  It was my last drink of the night, and I was really happy.  What can I say?  I truly believe life is much better if you can go through it with a little buzz.

OK maybe it's just work that is better that way.  Sigh.

Here's to a great 2015 for us all.  What are your goals for the year?

XOXO to all.  Oh, and no blog post is complete without a picture of my baby love.

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

So this happened.

I woke up yesterday morning looking like this:

And went to bed looking like this:

I finally feel like me again, after 16 months of growing my hair long for the wedding. We cut 10" of hair off! Bye bye long stringy lock, hello short sassy 'do!


Tuesday, November 11, 2014

We Did It!

We're married! Details to follow as soon as I recover from the honeymoon!



Friday, September 5, 2014

Words to live by....oh, and 56 days!

So first things first.

56 days til the wedding. Holy shitballs. I'm so not ready.

Second, I just wanted to post this little item I found today, a quote from the great Meryl Streep. As I have entered my 50's (53 now, thank you), this is exactly where I am in my life.

“I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me. I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals. And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience.” _ Meryl Streep 

Happy Friday, all! Likely won't be back until after the wedding, so Happy Fall!


Thursday, June 12, 2014

141 Days....but who's counting?

Boy, time flies when you're planning a wedding!

I haven't done a blog post since last October when we brought our delicious baby Tolinka home to live with us. She's spoiled beyond belief, and loved without excepetion. She's a momma's girl big time, but she loves her daddy too. To say we treat her as our baby is an understatement. She and Mora (my granddog as you remember) are best friends, and love to play together.

So the wedding is officially 141 days away. How did that happen?? When I started that count to the right, there were 500+ days! Everything is set, all the plans in motion. Now it's just a waiting game, really. We're having a Hallowedding...getting married on 10/31 at what will be a big ass costume party with vows! Michael and I are dressing as a Steampunk Bride & Groom, and my dress will be purple.

While I doubt I have many readers left, know that I think of you all often, and am grateful for the friends I made as a blogger. (Some of which are coming to the wedding!!!) I'll be back in November with a recap of the wedding!


Monday, October 21, 2013

Please welcome our new addition....

This is Tolinka! She is about to turn three years old, and she is Mora's aunt! We adopted her this weekend, and she's fit right in with us.

Such a love bug.

Thursday, September 5, 2013

Just a quick update to let you know that the kidney transplant went amazingly well, and my guy is on the mend!!!!!


 Thank you all for your continued prayers and good thoughts.


Monday, August 12, 2013

Kidneys R Us

Michael is having a kidney transplant on Friday.  I know I haven't posted much recently, but please do me a favor and say a prayer for him, and for his donor and niece, Kitty....for a successful transplant, and easy recovery for both.

Thank you!

Monday, July 1, 2013

Guess Who's Getting Married?!?!?!

 Dude knows how to shop for jewelry, doesn't he?


Save the Date....we're having a Hallowedding, October 31, 2014! (Yes, next year!)  Costumes required!  You just can't come dressed as a bride or groom, or I'll cut you.  LOL

 Life is good!

Friday, May 17, 2013

Fistulas R Us

Michael had his 3rd fistula surgery Wednesday. For those of you not well versed in dialysis and all that stuff, a fistula is where they graft a vein and an artery together in your arm, to be used as a dialysis port.  He's had this surgery done twice before in the last month, and neither took.  Both times the graft clotted within 12 hours of surgery.

This time, however, the brilliant vascular surgeon figured out that all these years of Michael donating blood to the Red Cross had created scar tissue in his veins, and thus wasn't allowing the first two fistulas adequate blood flow.  This guy moved the fistula to a different area, used a better artery/vein combo and voila....we feel the thrill (the vibration you literally feel under the skin of his arm, feels like rushing water) and we can hear the bruit (the sound it makes in the arm) through a stethoscope.

Yes, I have a stethoscope.  Yes, should be scared.  No, you cannot borrow it for "dress up night".

Nurse Ratched, at your service.

So yeah, finally we have a working fistula.  I can't tell you how excited that makes us.  Of course, getting there was fun....

Michael had to start dialysis in a hurry (a fistula takes 6-8 weeks to mature for use) so he had a chest cath put in.  That kind of sucks to have two tubes hanging out of your chest.  So here's that:

Then he went out and shaved his head like he's in the Army got a hair cut:

You can imagine my surprise.  I'm getting used to it though.  And one of my gay friends pronounced him as "hot" with the haircut, so clearly it's a hit in that circle.  LOL  Besides, now he and Jordan look like father and son...well, if Michael would grow a handlebar mustache.

That's my and my favorite kid on Mother's Day.  I'm still trying to figure out exactly when he got taller than me?

Anyway, back to the Kidney Khronicles:

So this week, we went to get the third fistula, and Michael was pretty bored with the entire process.

But afterwards, he felt pretty good, and we were happy to go home.

So right now we're just waiting for a bunch of us to get testing started a donor matches.  God willing there is a transplant in Michael's near future.

If you're O blood type and wanna save a life, call me.  Email me.  Fax me.  Text.  Instagram. Facebook. Smoke signals.  Whatev.

Oh, and there is no blogging without a picture of my granddog....

Mora turned a year old on April 28th.  And I love her to pieces.  And believe me, she is Grandma's Girl.


Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Update on The Search for a Kidney

Thank you, to everyone who responded to my post about Michael's need for a kidney transplant, for all of your kind words, prayers, good thoughts and most of all for sharing our story.

I also tweeted it and Facebooked about it, and as a result of all of all of our efforts, I've had several friends of mine who have called the transplant center for packets, one of Jordan's friends who is very willing to be tested and donate, and believe it or not a total stranger from Canada who contacted me to let me know he had called and gotten a packet sent to him as well.

Today I received a really lovely email from a young lady here in Ohio who heard about it from Matt Logelin's retweet (thanks again, Matt!) who told me how she donated a kidney last year, and she said in part..."I would be more than happy to talk to anyone who is thinking about donating. My experience was wonderful and I don’t want someone to not donate out of fear. Everyone at OSU was incredible from the coordinator to the surgeon to the nurses. I had minimal pain and none at all as soon as the meds kicked in. I was back to work 10 days after surgery."

How great is that!??!?!

I am 100% sure we will have a donor sooner than later, whether it's family or friends or a total stranger. Keep those prayers coming, and send out positive thoughts. So far it's working beautifully!

Love to all!

Julie & Michael

Monday, May 6, 2013


Dear Friends and Family:

As some of you know, and many of you don't, my love Michael Devany has a very serious kidney disease that has now resulted in the need for immediate dialysis, and a kidney transplant. Our families are being tested as live donors, and the hope is that one of us will be a match, so that he can have an immediate transplant. If he has to be on the transplant list, it's estimated to be 3-5 years before he may get a kidney. 

Getting a new kidney will allow him to have a much better quality of life over the next few years, and while it is not a cure for his disease, it is definitely the best option for treatment. It keeps him from being dependent on dialysis, and allows him to live as normal life as possible. Being a donor is much easier than you may think!

As a donor you are only in the hospital for 1-2 days, and off work for about 2 weeks. Michael's health insurance pays for everything but your time off work, including follow up appointments. We can all live normal lives with only one kidney, but you could save a life by donating one that you don't need. How amazing would that be?

Michael's blood type is O- so a donor will need to be an O as well. There is also a paired donation program which means that while he may not have a willing donor who matches him, he may have one who matches someone else, and that person has someone who matches him, etc. Thus, the reason I am posting this on my blog, to spread the word.

If you are interested in finding our more about donating, or would be willing to be tested, please call the OSU Transplant Center at 1-800-293-8965 and request a packet in Michael's name.

You may or may not have any interest in donating, and that's okay. We understand. But there are a couple of things I would like to ask you to do...

First and foremost, say a prayer for Michael, for us, and for our families as we travel down this unfamiliar road. Most importantly, pray for a live donor for him. While we have anticipated getting to this situation "at some point", we thought we had more time to plan our course. Unfortunately things have changed and now we're here. So we need all the people who we love, and who love us, to include him in your prayers.

The second thing I ask you all to do is to share this on your blog. You all have many never know who out there is in a similar situation, who has contacts as far as kidney donors that we don't have, or who might have their own live donor that doesn't match them but could be a match for us. So if you will do that for us, we would be forever grateful.

Michael and I, as well as the Devany and Reeg families, thank you from the bottom of our hearts for your support and love. You're the best.

Love, Julie & Michael


Saturday, January 12, 2013

Well Hell.

Happy New Year.

And....that's all I've got.